Both the conditionals have a past tense in the protasis, which is usually a sign of an irrealis or counterfactual conditional. But in both these instances, it is actually a realis conditional in the past.
The first says that if it is actually, now, a fact that you didn't go to the last meeting, then you will not be allowed to the next one: it is not a hypothetical.
Similarly, the second one is not a hypothetical ("what would have happened if you didn't like the car") but says that if in fact you didn't like the car, then it was not a good idea ("shouldn't") for you to buy it.
I don't know with any clarity what "first" and "third" conditionals are - I know a fair bit of linguistics, but I've never been involved in TESOL.
If a first conditional is defined by having a non-past verb, then those are not first conditionals. If a first conditional is defined by being realis rather than irrealis, then those are first conditionals, despite their past tense verbs.
And if what you have been taught is that a past tense in a conditional implies that it is irrealis, then these are counter-examples that show that you have been taught an oversimplification.