I'm looking for a word (at best a verb because the expression in my native language a verb) used to show disapproval to describe when you do or want to do a favor for someone and you want to make that person feel that s/he is indebted to you.
For example my friend asks me for some money and I start talking about my own financial problems or the fact that this is me who's always helping him out then my friend confronts me with this and says,
I understand that this is a great favor but please stop [word]ing
Or I ask my colleague to help me and he acts like he wants you to know that he really doesn't have to do it and wants you to know he's doing you a favor. Later you tell your friend about your collegue and say,
Today I asked my colleague to help me and he did but with some [word]ing.