Maybe I've watched too much television where everyone is sarcastic and upset about each other, but I feel like when I say please to ask for something, as in "Could you please change that ?", or "Please try doing this instead.", I'm doing the opposite of being polite.
I can't help but read it in a judgemental, condescending voice, does it feel the same for a native ?
For now it feels better without the please : "Could you change that ?" "Try doing that instead". What should I say ?