Let's say I'm going to a Chinese restaurant and I want to invite my friend/colleague. Which is the most appropriate form? What are the differences?


I'm going to get some Chinese food.
Care to join? / Would you like to join? / Do you want to join?

Which is the most common form for native speakers?

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    "Would you care to..." is a little old-fashioned (in BrE) although it is still understood. "Would you like to..." is probably best, and "do you want to..." is acceptable.
    – Mick
    Nov 23, 2016 at 15:23
  • @Mick And how about simply "Care to join?" in comparison with the rest?
    – Novellizator
    Nov 23, 2016 at 15:28
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    "Care to join us?" is colloquial. No problem.
    – Mick
    Nov 23, 2016 at 15:33
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    You asked 3 questions, not one. (And questions about what is the most appropriate are usually primarily opinion-based, so off-topic.)
    – Drew
    Nov 23, 2016 at 16:54

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"Care to" is more graceful. It might be a little old-fashioned but it sounds great to my ear. Your "join" doesn't match in tone very well, though. The following would sound pleasing:

Care to come along?


Would you care to come along?

If you ever have trouble with people understanding your spoken English, then go with the latter ("Would you etc.").

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    With the full "would you", "care" sounds very old fashioned, and I'd always use "like". But if I omit the "would you", I would use "care". So "Would you like to join us?", but "Care to join us?".
    – Colin Fine
    Feb 7, 2017 at 23:59
  • @ColinFine - To me "Would you care to" sounds polite and solicitous. If I were invited with this phrasing, I would be likely to accept, or at least be pleased by the invitation. What I like about this invitation is that there is no pressure, but the inviter sounds interested in having the other person's company. Feb 8, 2017 at 4:13

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