I would like to say...

My Mom did not get angry as much as my Dad did.

...but I want the sentence to also convey that I had expected my Mom to be more angry (not less) than my Dad.

How can I say this in natural English?

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    Are you talking about the intensity of their anger, or about how often they got angry?
    – John Feltz
    Commented Jan 10, 2017 at 16:38
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    If you want a phrase: Contrary to expectation, my Mom did not get as angry as my Dad. If you want a word, Surprisingly or Unexpectedly
    – Darshan Baral
    Commented Jan 10, 2017 at 16:40
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    @JohnFeltz about intensity
    – hyeganeh
    Commented Jan 10, 2017 at 16:42
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    I edited the title of your question, because it's about how to express equality or inequality, not literally how to say the word "equality". Please feel free to change it if you think I changed the meaning too much!
    – stangdon
    Commented Jan 10, 2017 at 16:49
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    It depends on what the source of the expectation as. Is this a cultural perception that women are supposed to be angrier than men? Or are you saying that based on the temper of your father, people who knew your father would expect your mother to also be an angry person?
    – mstorkson
    Commented Jan 10, 2017 at 16:50

3 Answers 3


When you're trying to illustrate the difference between what you expected and what actually happened, you need to use words like "but", "however", "contrary", or "unexpectedly" to provide that contrast.

I thought my mom would be angrier than my dad, but it was the other way around.

Contrary to my expectations, my dad was angrier than my mom.


How about "in spite"?

In spite of my expectations, Mom was not as angry as my dad. Or perhaps despite?

de·spite dəˈspīt/ preposition 1. without being affected by; in spite of. "he remains a great leader despite age and infirmity" synonyms: in spite of, notwithstanding, regardless of, in the face of, for all, even with "despite his lack of enthusiasm, Zachary had a pretty good time"


I thought Mom would probably kill me, but it was Dad who took me to the woodshed! And that's the truth!

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    Hi cidchase, could you please elaborate? It would help the OP understand better. Cheers !
    – Varun Nair
    Commented Jan 11, 2017 at 5:40

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