I am writing a small essay wherein I want to urge the reader to "look at his problem from the other person's perspective" (to understand why the other person is behaving in a particular way).
Example: (just making this up, not from my actual essay, which is somewhat ... uhm, confidential)
Jane: My husband is always late from work, and he even works weekends. He never seems to have time for me.
Friend: I have sympathies for you. However, try looking at this from his perspective. Well paying jobs are hard to come by, and he needs the overtime to build a good future for your family.
Is there a more "flowery" or idiomatic expression I could use to replace the italicized phrase?
I used to occasionally use put the boot on the other foot, but I recently realized that it doesn't mean what I thought it meant.