Here are some antonyms for lonely:


Basically, by lonely I mean someone who feels lonely even in a crowd. Such people are usually depressed. They feel happy if anyone gives them some positive attention.

These people want a man in their life and they actively seek mates. Whereas a person who is comfortable in her own skin won't have to go on looking elsewhere for attention and love since they are enough for themselves.

What should I say when I have to say I want someone who is ....?

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    Generally girls would prefer independent and outgoing guys. If you'd like to imply happiness and also optimism cheerful would work best.
    – Yuri
    Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 10:16
  • @Yuri what is the one word for what you have described? Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 10:17
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    I think you want someone who's happy (or cheerful, as Yuri has suggested). It's not the "loneliness" that bothers you, it's the fact that "such people are usually depressed" itself that bothers you. And usually, we would say, "I want someone who's happy with himself, comfortable with himself, confident in who he is, etc." These sorts of things. Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 10:49
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    @TRomano - Interesting; I upvoted this because I thought the question did show research. At least antonyms were looked up and listed, and an explanation was given as to why those don't convey the sentiment being sought by the O.P.
    – J.R.
    Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 16:59
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    @TRomano - I don't see the need to define these eight words individually, just to show us all that words like inhabited, populated, and frequented don't quite mean "comfortable in one's own skin; won't have to look elsewhere for attention and love since they are enough for themselves." Perhaps a lookup of unlonely might be in order, but, insofar as word requests go, this is as researched as many.
    – J.R.
    Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 17:14

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It's hard to capture everything you want to say with a single word, but here is one suggestion:

self-confident (adj.) showing poise and confidence in your own worth

You might be able to pinpoint what you're trying to say even more closely by pairing that with another adjective:

affable (adj.) easy and pleasant to speak to; approachable, courteous, sociable; receiving others kindly and conversing with them in a free and friendly manner.

I think one who is seeking an "unlonely" person is looking for someone who is both self-confident and affable.


Now that I read your added description

...won't have to go on looking elsewhere for attention and love since they are enough for themselves

I'd suggest a person who has a strong sense of self-esteem. Self-esteem is what the world desperately needs since many problems starts when people don't see themselves as worthy e.i. they don't love themselves.

However, I find it rather hard to put this psychological concept in an adjective, self-sufficient which means emotionally independent and self respectful which basically means having self-esteem could be the candidates.

Again as previously I mentioned in my comment, if you mean a person who's happy and you can have fun with cheerful is a good choice of word.


In dating speak, it's


In corporate speak, it's

a people person

It's basically a person who is comfortable interacting with people and possibly crowds. Not necessarily an extrovert, but definitely not an introvert.

  • But why? A person who is able to interact with others may still be lonely by heart. In fact I know such a person. You mean to say that a person who interacts with others won't be lonely? Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 10:06
  • The feeling of loneliness can occur for anyone in almost any circumstance. Lovers after being intimate may feel "alone", If you could define what you mean by "loneliness" it may make the question clearer, otherwise your question may appear to be "opinion based".
    – Peter
    Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 10:28
  • I have added some more description. Commented Feb 23, 2017 at 10:32

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