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I see a lot of people using they/them pronoun on their twitter handles. And when I googled about it, I have come to know that it is a Gender-neutral pronouns.

However, isn't it wrong to use words like 'they' and 'them' for a single person?

For example, when talking about such person, one has to say,

They are walking down the road.

which makes it plural. However, for a male/female pronoun, one can say,

He/She is walking down the road.

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First, the singular they has been in use since before English became modern English; it was used in Middle English in the 14th century. It only became déclassé around 1900 when some overly stuffy grammarians started acting up.

Second, its use as a gender neutral singular is a bit more complex: It can be used either when we don't know the gender of the person:

Someone's coming up the street! They are coming to our house!

or when the person is nonbinary and prefers "they". Nonbinary people vary in which pronoun they prefer. Some use he or she, some use e, some use they; there are other possibilities to. Many prefer to use their names whenever possible, and eschew pronouns as much as possible. For instance, if the person's name is (say) Basil (as one nonbinary person I know is named):

Basil is coming up the street! Basil is coming to our house! Now Basil is knocking on our door!

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    We happily use "you" in the singular instead of the archaic "thou". In PDE "they" and "them" are now also perfectly acceptable. We also say "you are" and not "you is" when talking to one person. – Weather Vane Aug 28 '17 at 18:33
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The "singular they" prevents the awkwardness of using "he/she" or guessing the gender wrong. For example, I might be talking about you in a chat room, and say:

Did you see the latest question posted by Dawny33? She's been asking some interesting questions.

However, if you happen to be male, that might create an awkward moment. So, I might say instead,

Did you see the latest question posted by Dawny33? They've been asking some interesting questions.

(There are other ways to circumvent this issue, too, but this one is often used.)

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"Singular they" does have a long history in English, and cannot be considered wrong. It has been more favored in recent decades to avoid "default he", that is, the use of male pronouns for a person of unknown or unspecified gender. That has a much longer history in English than "Singular they" does, but is now considered to show gender bias and is strongly frowned on by many people. It does avoid writing "s/he" or "he/she" or "he or she". On the other hand, it loses the information about singular vs plural.

Personally, I strongly dislike singular they and will not write it under any circumstances whatsoever. I will usually use "s/he" or "he or she", which I do not find at all awkward. I do not know any people who have expressed specific pronoun preferences to me – I am not sure how I would handle the case if I had occasion to write of a person who preferred to use "they". I might add that if personal preferences are allowed in such matters, that I prefer not to be referred to as "they", except as part of a group.

At one time I hoped for consensus to form on a new, coined pronoun for a singular person of unspecified case. I favored "zie" with objective case "zir" and possessive "zis". But no wide consensus on this has developed, and I do not now expect one in my lifetime.

  • In more formal writing, I often get around the "singular they problem" by pluralizing the subject. For example, Draft 1: When a doctor gives advice to a patient, the patient should listen to him. Draft 2 (fixes gender bias): When a doctor gives advice to a patient, the patient should listen to them. Draft 3 (fixes the potential awkwardness of the 'singular they'): When doctors give advice to patients, the patients should listen to them. – J.R. Jun 7 at 21:02
  • @JR. Yes that is one solution. I would be more likely to write When a doctor gives advice to a patient, the patient should listen to him or her or avoid the pronoun with When a doctor gives advice to a patient, the patient should listen to that advice. – David Siegel Jun 7 at 21:38
  • DavidS - I think your last one is the best version of them all! Still, pluralization is a nifty trick that can often solve the problem quite well, depending on the original sentence. – J.R. Jun 7 at 21:42
  • @J.R. Quite true, pluralization can be a useful technique. I recall an SF series set in a future in which grammar had changed on this point: the default pronoun became the speaker's pronoun. That is, when referring to a person of unspecified gender, a female speaker used "she" and a male speaker used "he". An interesting idea. I have read texts in which a generic person is referred to as "she" in odd-numbered chapters, and as "he" in even-numbered ones. That can be confusing. – David Siegel Jun 7 at 21:56
  • DavidS - Interesting. I heard a speaker one time recommend that we use the opposite gender as much as possible, to make the language more inclusive as a whole. Clearly there are a myriad of approaches to this English predicament. In the meantime, I've thought of a better example to my earlier point: "A good programmer will learn from his mistakes." Most of the time, there's no reason an adage like that can't be pluralized: Good programmers will learn from their mistakes. – J.R. Jun 8 at 11:04
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Singular they has solved many problems especially the gender bias.The history of single they has well been explained in the previous posts.

Gender bias :Indefinite pronouns like nobody, somebody used to be treated as masculine gender. so it was considered gender bias.So the use of singular they solved the problem of awkward construction such as he/ she.

Now we can say:

Everybody should bring their Hall tickets instead of his/ or his/ her hall ticket.

When the gender of a person is not known

Sometimes the gender of a person is not known such as on sites like this.Then singular they come to our rescue.

We say:

They are a new comer to this site

Correctness: When the native speakers start using singular they in all the occassions, it should be considered idiomatic and grammatical.Grammar books can only describe language, they can not prescribe rules.

Here is a link which shows the usage of singular they.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singular_they

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