I would like to make friends at work as I am a migrant and am pretty much isolated from the society.

What I am not sure about is how to invite someone (a colleague I mean) to do a casual activity with me and not sound impolite/pushy/unprofessional/needy. Also I am a girl and he is a guy. Don't want to sound flirty as well.

For instance, I have a colleague who seems to be into playing games such as chess, etc.

If I tell him something like this, would it be appropriate?

Hello, hello. If I remember correctly, you like playing chess. My partner and I are not pros but like to play chess and other types of games as well. We thought maybe we could arrange a little game night/day if you are interested at all?

Would appreciate any advice as to how make these sentences in such a way to serve my purpose.

Thank you guys in advance.

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    We can probably advise you how to extend the invitation politely -- but how to do it without any connotation of romantic interest? I think that's next to impossible in any language, because it has more to do with your relationship and his level of interest in you, than the words you choose. Even your very nice example could be construed as a romantic overture, if he wanted to see it that way.
    – Andrew
    Commented Sep 29, 2017 at 5:24
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    Thanks Andrew for your comment. On a side note, the fact that we are both in committed relationships and the fact that I mention my partner in the invitation, will that decrease the chance of him interpreting it as a romantic invitation? All I am looking for is making good friends...
    – Maryam
    Commented Sep 29, 2017 at 5:30
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    Maryam, I expect your instinct is as good as mine. This is about personality and not language, and would likely be no different anywhere else in the world.
    – Andrew
    Commented Sep 29, 2017 at 5:32
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    yeah, I see your point :)
    – Maryam
    Commented Sep 29, 2017 at 5:33
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    "Hi. Wish to join me and my partner in a game of chess? I heard that you like playing it. How about it?" - how's this? Commented Sep 29, 2017 at 6:47

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If you want to make some moves on your colleague (chess moves, that is) you could ask:

Are you up for playing some chess this weekend? My {boyfriend|partner|etc} and I are trying to set up a chess day.


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