What's different between

You are so rude.


You are too rude.

I want to know difference in grammar, social communication, rigor, manner and where they are used! (other things as well).

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    The phrase so rude simply means “very rude”, while too rude means “more rude than you should be”.
    – J.R.
    Sep 29, 2017 at 9:14
  • @J.R. You should make that an answer. Nobody can say better. Sep 29, 2017 at 18:55
  • @SovereignSun - A lot more could be said in a good answer. The OP asked for differences in social communication and rigor as well as meaning; my answer doesn't touch on those aspects at all.
    – J.R.
    Sep 29, 2017 at 19:52
  • @J.R. Thanks again. If my question is ridicule or stupid for people, I prefer to delete it now!
    – Nosrati
    Sep 30, 2017 at 15:41
  • @MyGlasses - I don’t think it’s a foolish question at all! It’s an interesting question. Maybe you haven’t received an answer because it’s kind of challenging to explain.
    – J.R.
    Sep 30, 2017 at 20:39

1 Answer 1


Both so and too have several meanings. Used as in your examples, the definitions of these words in the Cambridge Dictionary are:

so = very, extremely, or to such a degree:

  • The house is so beautiful.
  • Thank you for being so patient.

too = very, or completely:

  • My mother hasn't been too well recently.
  • (formal) Thank you, you're too kind.

The main difference between them is the strength of the message:

  • so = very
  • too = excessively, beyond expectations

Bottom line: too is stronger than so in these examples.


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