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Is there an expression to use when someone does not do something or does something, because, for example, he does not want to offend that person or upset him.

For example, your close friend asks you to do something. You don't really want to do it, but you do it, because you think if you don't, he will get upset.

Is there any expression defining the act?
Or is there one that describes the type of relationship between you and your friend? Describing a relationship in which one side finds it really hard to refuse the other's request fearing he might get upset.

A: She asked you to do her homework and you did it again?!
B: Well, yes. I didn't want to upset her. (Something that B can say about himself and the way their relationship is)

I'm not sure if saying the person is "constrained by reserve" can fit the context. Cause might sound weird if B says "I'm usually constrained by feelings of reserve in my friendship with her."

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    A relationship in which one side finds it really hard to refuse the other's request fearing he might get upset, is called abusive. – Weather Vane Dec 7 '17 at 18:35
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    I answered the second of your two questions. Positively, the first could be tactful, but I would say submissive. It might depend on the local culture. – Weather Vane Dec 7 '17 at 18:46
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    How about the word "humor" as a verb: "to do what someone wants or to pretend to agree with them so that they do not become upset" ldoceonline.com/dictionary/humour. – Mrt Dec 7 '17 at 19:10
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    The question edit reinforces what I said: your "friend" wants you to do their homework. The simple answer is "do your own homework". That will test how much of a "friend". Getting upset, is the weapon that your abuser uses to threaten you. – Weather Vane Dec 7 '17 at 19:17
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    Possibly bite the bullet, which is to say - doing something just to get it over with, most often when it's assumed that the something in question will need to be performed anyway. And then, perhaps ..wears the pants in the relationship.. can be used to describe the relationship between the two people, with the person who wears the pants being the dominant figure. – user30379 Dec 7 '17 at 19:31
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From her side: exploit, take advantage of, abuse, use, manipulate, milk, misuse, dump on, play on or upon.

From his side: oblige, humor, indulge, cater (to), gratify, cocker, coddle, cosset, mollycoddle, pamper, spoil.

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How about the word "humor" as a verb. The definition in LDOCE is:

to do what someone wants or to pretend to agree with them so that they do not become upset

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    See question edit, it is about doing someone else's homework. – Weather Vane Dec 7 '17 at 19:18
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    Apparently there is a relationship based on parasitism. We need to find a word that can be used for the act of the counter part of a parasite in social environments. – Mrt Dec 7 '17 at 19:35

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