Can someone tell me if your dad and my is correct in the following question?
Today would have been your dad and my 40th wedding anniversary.
Thanks much.
CG
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Sign up to join this communityCan someone tell me if your dad and my is correct in the following question?
Today would have been your dad and my 40th wedding anniversary.
Thanks much.
CG
A mother addressing a son or daughter, colloquially:
Today, would have been our 40th anniversary. [another way, formal or informal]
Today, would have been your dad's and my 40th anniversary. [informal, mother to child]
The word anniversary after dad's is implied. It may be omitted. It is usual to put the other person first. It's considered less "self-centered".
It simply doesn't sound like you're talking about your and your dad's 40th anniversary (notice the apostrophe-s thing at the end of dad), but about two different things: your dad and your 40th anniversary. To better understand why, let's split the sentence up into two separate clauses connected with an and:
Today would have been your dad and today would have been my 40th wedding anniversary.
First of all, can you see that the statement today would have been your dad talks about just your dad and not about your dad's 40th wedding anniversary? Secondly, do you really think that this statement is even making any realistic sense? I don't think so. We need to add the possessive s and 40th wedding anniversary after your dad if we want to turn it into something that actually makes sense:
Today would have been your dad's 40th wedding anniversary and today would have been my 40th wedding anniversary.
Now, it's all down to just smoothing it all back together into one sentence as before (I think my coming before your dad's sounds better):
Today would have been my and your dad's 40th wedding anniversary.