Some speakers use “help” instead of “please”:

  • Can you help (to) confirm this?
  • Can you help (to) send meeting notes?

To mean the same thing as:

  • Can you please confirm this?
  • Can you please send meeting notes?

What do you think about that usage?

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    You should summarize what you think they (help vs. please) mean. They don't mean the same thing, and context is needed to know which is better. – user3169 Jul 1 '18 at 17:03
  • Edited the question accordingly. – Markus Jul 1 '18 at 18:29

The use of please confirm implies that you are asking for a simple statement of fact:

Can you tell me if this is right?

But the use of help to confirm can mean that you are requesting actual aid in verifying something:

Can you help me conduct this experiment so I can validate my theory?

In other words, there is a degree of context that's required between these two things.

The use of please send implies that you are asking somebody else to send something:

Could you send these meeting notes for me?

But the use of help to send means that you are asking somebody to assist you with your own sending—or to join you in the activity:

I can't figure out how to use this software. Can you help me send these meeting notes?

Again, context plays a key role.

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If you use help (to), it will sound like an unissued demand, but no serious demand; however, if you use please, it is more of a polite request to ask somebody to confirm/send meeting notes. But both will do, without anyone getting upset with you.

...and if you use help, it will imply that somebody has to help you to confirm something/send meeting notes because you cannot do it alone. If you say please, it will imply that it's not your job to do it, and you ask a person to do it instead of you. In context, the meaning of these two would surely be more clear.

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