How is called this word when someone is trying doggedly to be a friend of someone especially when their efforts is annoying?

Tell me please what verb, adjective or adverb I can use to mean someone is constantly trying to become a friend of someone and that someone doesn't really want to see that person in their circle.

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    There is no verb that means "to make repeated unsuccessful attempts to join a circle of friends". Are you looking perhaps for an adverb or an adjective to describe such a person or such attempts? – Tᴚoɯɐuo Jul 27 '18 at 20:02
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    If you provide an example sentence of how you might like to use that word, it might be easier for us to find the right one. – ColleenV parted ways Jul 27 '18 at 20:25
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    This question has already produced a series of "random" answers. You need to provide more focus in order to help us determine a particular word that matches what you are looking for. Questions shouldn't be used to simply ask for a list of synonyms. – Jason Bassford Supports Monica Jul 28 '18 at 1:59

If you're looking for something to describe the person, there are:

  • importunate mentioned by Tᴚoɯɐuo (annoyingly persistent in solicitation) seems to capture the description
  • bothersome (causing annoyance)
  • can't take a hint (slang)
  • clueless (slang; the person doesn't have a clue that they are unwanted)
  • wannabe member (slang, derived from "want to be"; a person who wants or aspires to be someone or something else)

Regarding their action:

  • to persistently do something to someone else that is undesired is to harass (various forms for different parts of speech)
  • My upvote is mostly for can't take a hint, which is a very apt expression in this scenario. – J.R. Jul 28 '18 at 8:03

To bother someone repeatedly about something is to badger them. Badgering doesn't specifically involve attempts to join a group, however, though it can apply to such a situation.

A person who is persistently annoying or intrusive in their ways can be called importunate or pushy.

A person who doesn't take a hint that they're not wanted can be called an intruder. A person who breaks into your house to commit harm or theft can also be called an intruder.

  • For a person who persists despite all, stalker is better than intruder. – Weather Vane Jul 27 '18 at 20:54
  • I think stalker is an extreme case, as you said, "despite all". You can be intrusive or pushy or obtuse without being a stalker. stalker implies something menacing. – Tᴚoɯɐuo Jul 27 '18 at 21:13
  • +1 for importunate – fixer1234 Jul 28 '18 at 0:57

People who do not get a message that you do not want to be their friend or let them into your group can be:

  • persistent, attempt persistently to be friends, to make persistent attempts
  • repeated, that person makes repeated attempts to be friends, to attempt repeatedly to be friends
  • annoying, to become annoying by making repeating attempts at friendship, annoyingly attempts or tries to become friends,
  • pester, a person pesters you to try and become friends with you
  • to make intrusive attempts to become your friend (intrusive here means not recognizing boundaries), to behave intrusively in trying to become friends

Those are some ways you can say it. Of course, there are many others, some of which are in the first answer. There is also a ton of slang, none of which I am providing here since it seems you want non-slang.


If you are looking for adverbs and adjectives that describe something like "to make repeated unsuccessful attempts" and is also annoying at the same time, you could go work with any of these:

  • Hound (verb): harass, persecute, or pursue relentlessly. To hound someone is to relentlessly pursue or pester them. However, a person who wants to be your friend is unlikely to hound you. This is on the extreme side.

  • Incessant (adj): (of something regarded as unpleasant) continuing without pause or interruption.

  • Pester (verb): trouble or annoy (someone) with frequent or persistent requests or interruptions. This is perhaps what you are looking for.

I like badgering too as mentioned above. Again, without a sentence it is hard to suggest an appropriate word.

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