For example, I want to say to my mum:

Oh, I could cook something myself. It's better for you just go in the room and rest after this crazy day you had. Mum... thank you for all, you're so ____. (you care about me so much)

What would be a word that has a positive connotation?

  • Idiomatically, we don't say someone "cares much". We could say that someone "cares a lot" or that someone "doesn't care much", but not "cares much". I don't know why, but that's just the way it is. – stangdon Aug 14 '18 at 15:18

Adjective: my parents are very caring people.

You are so caring. [not usually used with friends like that]. It is a very strong phrase in fact. So, you might say your parents are caring people and would probably say: Oh Mum, you care about me so much. [or: You care about me so much] And not: Oh Mum, you are so caring. Unless you mean how your mother is in relation to others, like the poor etc. to be caring = to be generous and nice to others.

Verb: My mother cares a lot about me. My cousin doesn't care a lot [or much] about me.

As has been pointed out, a lot is used in the declarative.

much and not much can be used in the negative and interrogative:

  • Do you care a lot about him? Do you care much about him?
  • They don't care much about us. They don't care a lot about us.
  • Do they care about you? Answer: Not much, not a lot.
  • I really care a lot about my dog.

Word of advice: to care about a person means to like or even to love. The more formal term is: to care for a person (like or love) but it also means: to take care of, as in: My mothers cares for my disabled aunt.

As an additional word of advice: much, many in most declarative sentences in spoken English becomes a lot of or lots of rather than much or many. In the negative and interrogative, many or much is used but a lot and lots of can also be used. (This is just a general idea here. Not every detail of usage. And I am not distinguishing here between adverbs and adjectives, for the record).


There are many alternatives that can be used to finish this sentence. For example:

you're so kind to me.

you're so compassionate at times like this.

you're so solicitous of my needs.

you're so caring when I really need it.

  • thank you so much, but I was looking for the adjective to describe my mum's kindness and to emphasize that it's in her nature to take care. like, "my mum is very " ( - the adjective I'm trying to find out :)) – Mary Zlyden Aug 14 '18 at 15:16
  • Then caring would be your choice. "My mum is very caring" – Mattias Aug 14 '18 at 15:22
  • @Mary Zlyden There are terms such as philanthropic, kind-hearted, altruistic, charitable, etc., but I think they are terms used to describe kind strangers; not your own mum. For your mum, I would recommend caring, attentive, devoted, doting, or protective. – James Aug 14 '18 at 16:14

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