I'm discombobulated.
Should it be like
1.It's difficult to reconcile (the demands of my job) and (the desire to be a good father).
Or
2.It's difficult to reconcile (the demands of my job) and (the demands of the desire to be a good father).
Here is another example.
Should it be like
3.It was plain that he was reconciling (the claims of compatriot courtesy) and (official rectitude).
Or
4.It was plain that he was reconciling (the claims of compatriot courtesy) and (the claims of official rectitude).