I will explain with examples.

I sat between her and the door

I sat between her and her bag.

"her" would mean the girl herself, in the first example, and it would still mean that in the second example.

Because what only matters to me is that you didn't steal any of her and her friend's money.

So, would "her" in the third example mean "herself" instead of "her money"? If yes, then how should I fix it?

I didn't write (her money and her friend's money) to avoid redundancy.

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    What do you mean by separate an object pronoun from its noun?? The first examples have no relation to the third one. The pronouns with self/selves are only for emphasizing the pronoun. I, myself, do not understand your question. her and her friend's money cannot be restated using herself.
    – Lambie
    Jan 22, 2019 at 14:48
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    What about replacing "her and her friend's money" by "their money" if you have already mentioned both previously? It's less verbose. :-)
    – RubioRic
    Jan 22, 2019 at 14:51
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    Herself can only be used to emphasize she.She, herself, did not understand the question. Pronouns with self are only for emphasis.
    – Lambie
    Jan 22, 2019 at 15:12
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    Reflexive pronouns are not only for emphasis. Sometimes they are obligatory complements, as in She hurt herself / Ed was talking to himself.
    – BillJ
    Jan 22, 2019 at 16:05
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    A lot of native speakers would be quite happy with ("non-possessive") you didn't steal any of her and her friend's money, where the possessive apostrophe in friend's applies both nouns. But quite a few (most?) would go for ...any of hers and her friend's money anyway. And unquestionably the majority go with explicit possessive for both with the male equivalent.... Jan 22, 2019 at 16:32

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I didn't steal any of her and her friend's money

There her is a possessive adjective. her money, the money of her friend.

I sat next to her.

There her is the objective case of subjective/nominative case she.

The object of a preposition is typically in the objective case.

... with her, to her, beside her, of her, on her, under her, over her, in her etc.


The word her can act as both a possessive pronoun and a possessive adjective (which is not true for the male equivalents him/his).

So, in the sentence:

I sat between HER and HER bag

the first HER is a poossessive pronoun referring to the person herself and the second is a possessive adjective qualifying the bag that belongs to her.

In the sentence you query, the use of HER can only refer to the money owned by the person concerned because you can't steal any part of a person unless you are speaking metaphorically or stealing body parts.

Because of the context, there is no confusion. Equally, you could have written any of her money and/or her friend's or her friend's money and hers,


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    The first her isn't possessive but an oblique (objective) case. I sat between them and their dog, at least I thought the dog was theirs.
    – TimR
    Jan 22, 2019 at 15:29
  • @Tᴚoɯɐuo I bow to your learning. I don't think they'd been invented when I was at university.. Jan 22, 2019 at 16:15
  • @Tᴚoɯɐuo: This exact situation doesn't seem to have come up on ELL, but I completely endorse your ELU answer pointing out that Her and her boyfriend used as the compound subject of a verb is "substandard" though not uncommon. Jan 22, 2019 at 16:41

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