Would the main subject be considered plural when "besides" is added to the sentence?

For example:

A mother is telling her daughter:

Me, besides your father, (think/s) that your attitude these past few days is unbearable and very rude indeed.

I know the sentence can be structured in other ways that may be more suitable, but I'm intending the situation more than the sentence (example) itself.

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You cannot use the object pronoun "me" as the subject of a sentence - you should use "I". I would also reverse the order of "Besides your father" and "I", as this sounds more natural to me. I would also change the tense to present perfect where you describe something happening over the past few days. And to answer your question, you should use think, not thinks. thinks only works for the third person singular, and you are talking about yourself - this is the first person singular. This is how I would phrase it:

Besides your father, I think that your attitude these past few days has been unbearable and very rude indeed.

However, if you switched it so that "your father" was the main subject, you would use thinks:

Besides me, your father thinks that your attitude these past few days has been unbearable and very rude indeed.

In the above case you would use "me" because it's the object of the preposition "besides". In general I might use along with instead of besides in either of these sentences, but that could just be my personal preference.

  • It seems as it is unpreferable in my current structure, but that may be because of the tons of grammatical mistakes I did. So, if I said (another example): "Her sister, besides her, thinks that...", then would it be acceptable and correct? Mar 8, 2019 at 1:02
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    @TasneemZh In your new version, I would normally interpret it as a typo for beside, meaning that her sister was standing next to her. To have besides convey the meaning you want, you should start the sentence with it—not use it parenthetically. Mar 8, 2019 at 3:14
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    Yes, that’s correct, because in this case “her sister” is the subject and takes the third-person singular verb form (thinks). The “besides X” phrase is not part of the subject and is irrelevant to the verb conjugation. But if you said “She and her sister...” then you would use think because this is a third-person plural subject.
    – Mixolydian
    Mar 8, 2019 at 3:20
  • I meant to write "... grammatical mistakes I made" — another grammar issue. Mar 8, 2019 at 9:08
  • @JasonBassford | If that's the case, then I would better avoid it in that questionable structure. Mar 8, 2019 at 9:09

No. "Besides" means "separate from", and the verb should be conjugated relative to the main subject. While "besides" can also imply "in addition to", whatever you want to add should be considered a distinct subject.

In your example, I prefer to put the "besides" clause before the subject:

Besides what your father thinks, I think your attitude ...

but this is personal preference. It's not wrong to do it the other way (although "me" is not the correct first-person subject. It should be "I").

Note I also changed it to "what your father thinks" so that the statement compares similar things. You can write a sentence that focuses on the people:

Besides your father and me, your grandmother is also going to your graduation.

  • But it would imply the meaning of "in addition to" in my current structure, wouldn't it? Mar 8, 2019 at 1:05
  • @TasneemZh Yes ... that's what I said, didn't I? Perhaps I don't understand your objection.
    – Andrew
    Mar 8, 2019 at 6:42
  • You said it means "separate from" but it can also imply "in addition to". So, it has a probability to mean the opposite of what I want the sentence to mean. That's why I've needed to make sure that even in its current structure, would it indicate that? Mar 8, 2019 at 9:03
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    @TasneemZh It woudl be "in addition to" if you both think the same thing, "In addition to what your father thinks, I also think that ..." It would be "different from" if you think different things.
    – Andrew
    Mar 8, 2019 at 16:00

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