On two separate incidents, I have been told that the sentence below (without any context) is rude.
I want a chocolate now.
Is this an absolute interpretation? Where is the argument for "rude" coming from - is it the use of "now" at the end? Or is it the use of "I want"? Please give me a good explanation.
Reasons why the sentence is rude.
In this answer, the answerer wrote
... saying it like that sounds like you're ordering someone to get you chocolate quite rudely.
"I want chocolate now" sounds rude, as it sounds like saying "You give me chocolate now!" which is basically rudely ordering someone to do it (in comments).
I believe that "I want a chocolate now" is rude, and that it is good for native-speakers to warn learners of this, lest learners inadvertently say something rude when they intend to be polite ...
An adult who wants to eat chocolates while in company can buy & carry their own & needn't ask anyone else for one. So the remark must be from a child ...
"I want..." is rude, and "now" expresses impatience, & is even ruder.
Am I right with this explanation?
I think the sentence "I want a chocolate now" just by itself does not convey rudeness. It could sound rude with a proper context. None of the following sentences sound rude to me (I made them up):
(1) I had a long day. I want a nice, long shower now.
(2) That was a wonderful meal. Time for dessert! I want a chocolate now.
(3) Oh man, I want that drink now.
(4) I have worked for 3 months without a break. I want a vacation now.
In my opinion, the two words "I want ..." [without a tone] says nothing about a person ordering someone to do something rudely. "I want a vacation now" is not rude, unless it's meant to be.
Also, it is not clear to me how one knows the speaker wants the listener to go get them a chocolate when the speaker says "I want a chocolate now" (there is no context here). I can say this to my friend. It does not say anything about me wanting them to fetch me a chocolate (see 4th bullet in the reasons section).
In this post, FumbleFingers wrote "But 'rudeness' is a highly subjective issue ...", and StoneyB wrote "What does matter is your tone of voice and other non-linguistic cues you provide."
I think it's not right to state that "I want ... now" is rude without any context, intention, non-verbal cues, and tone of voice.