I was wondering which prepositions(s)sound(s)natural in the following scenarios:

Scenario 1:

I'm your father! I want you to stop smoking, Anna. That's really harmful to your health. Sometimes, you discourage me ......... your actions.

a. with
b. by

Scenario 2:

Anna, hear me out! I've warned you several times already to stop smoking. I had told you that is rude to do that when I'm at home! But, you overlooked my request again! I'm really getting discouraged ....... you.

a. from
b. by

  • I want you to stop smoking Anna - You need to rephrase this. Major, major, red buzzer! It sounds like "Anna" is a drug or something that is being smoked. You could use a comma between smoking and Anna.
    – AIQ
    Apr 2, 2020 at 4:03
  • Point take @AIQ. I added comma. But I have no idea how should I rephrase it in a better way! Just please kindly answer my question. :)
    – A-friend
    Apr 2, 2020 at 4:49
  • I have a feeling you are incorrectly using the word "discourage". What exactly do you mean by that?
    – AIQ
    Apr 2, 2020 at 4:56
  • The verb "discourage" to me means: "ruin / take someone's hopes" @AIQ.
    – A-friend
    Apr 2, 2020 at 7:39
  • You ignored my request + Your reaction discourages me.
    – Lambie
    Apr 2, 2020 at 18:55

1 Answer 1


Between the options “by” and “from”, “by” sounds better in both scenarios. Both can be be used and are still grammatically correct, and it is your choice to decide what to use.

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