What do these sentences mean? Is the 'coming' and 'using' a reference to future or currently happening?

Do you mind Sam's coming with us?
Do you mind Belinda's using your computer?

  • See Do we use “my” or possessive pronouns in such sentences? as regards your possessive apostrophes in Sam's, Belinda's (which are perfectly "valid", but in practice, native speakers normally wouldn't include it in contexts like this). They mean (approximately) Do you mind if Sam comes with us?, ...if Belinda uses your computer? Apr 21, 2020 at 16:26
  • No,you used present tense which I know is perfectly valid, I wanna know if the aforementioned use of present continuous is valid or not to point the future occurrences. Apr 21, 2020 at 16:35
  • oic - you're probably going to want to know why I said approximately above. The answer is that the "possessive" version carries slightly stronger implications that the thing being asked about is or will be happening (regardless of whether you mind or not). But that's only an "implication", which may or may not be true in any given case - regardless of whether the speaker uses the possessive (or explicitly includes the word if). Apr 21, 2020 at 17:32
  • ...that's to say the actual words Do you mind Sam/Sam's coming with us? don't necessarily imply anything about whether Sam is with us now, OR will be with us in future, NOR do they necessarily imply that Sam might not come with us if you do mind. Apr 21, 2020 at 17:37

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As for the tense, or whether the action is present or future, present verb forms are always used after 'mind,' regardless of when the action takes place. The context here doesn't make the time of the action clear, partially because of the construction and partially because of the use of 'mind.'

'Mind' has numerous meanings and uses. It can be a warning or reminder to pay attention to or be careful of something: "Mind the gap," meaning watch out for the space between the platform and the train car; "Mind your step," meaning watch where you're walking so you don't trip, etc.

Similarly, in the sense of paying attention, it can be used to describe caring for (Can you mind my children today?) or guarding something (Will you mind my bag while I use the restroom?).

We can also use it to ask permission (Do you mind if I sit next to you?), politely ask for a favor (Would you mind passing the salt?), and either display annoyance or let someone know something is bothering you (Would you mind not playing your music so loud? I'm trying to sleep!) or enquire about annoyance or if you are doing something that bothers them (Do you mind my smoking here?).

In the examples above, the intent could be either to ask permission (Can Sam come with us? Can Belinda use your computer?) or to enquire about annoyance or worry (Does it bother you that Sam is coming with us? Does it bother you that Belinda is using your computer?)

The latter seems more likely, and it would be easy to tell which sense is correct, and also when the action will take place, if we were speaking to someone. The situation would then be clear: Sam is with us, or Belinda is using your computer. The confusion here is that we have a Verb (mind) + Possessive Adjective (Sam's, Belinda's) + Gerund (coming, using) form. This makes Sam or Belinda the agent of the action, the person doing the action represented by the gerund; it's not me doing the coming or using, it's Sam or Belinda.

Grammatically there is nothing wrong with it; any Verb + Gerund can have a subject inserted in the form of a possessive adjective, but some people may find it an uncomfortable construction, especially when the verb is 'mind.' There are a couple of ways to say the same thing with less confusion:

  • Do you mind if Sam comes with us?
    • If you want permission from someone
  • Do you mind that Sam is coming with us?
    • If you want to know if it bothers someone

If the tense needs to be clarified you could add, "...comes with us today?" or ,"...comes with us tomorrow?"

Here are some links to help:

Mind: Cambridge Dictionary

Verb + Possessive Adjective + Gerund

  • Thx I guess you've dispelled my doubts by smashing them to smithereens. So Present Cont. is possible but only context can clear the ambiguity. But just to put it up there,usually 'Do you mind...' phrase is always used with Present Tense. Apr 21, 2020 at 17:56
  • Maybe I used a sledgehammer to smash things to smithereens, where a flyswatter would do! But yes - present verb forms always follow 'mind.' Apr 21, 2020 at 18:24

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