I came across this sentence while I reading some questions randomly. The question starts with this sentence:

This is a bit of a noob question so bear with me.

Obviously, the user wants to excuse that he is a beginner and he might say something non-sense. But to say, 'bear with me' in the imperative, isn't the user bit rude? I feel like he is ordering to bear his ignorance. But why do I have to?

Wouldn't he need to say 'please' to be more polite?

This is a bit of a noob question so bear with me, please.

Do I need to feel a bit uneasy? Or is the original sentence acceptable as the internet culture?

  • I think this is venturing into the realm of opinion. The user is clearly striking an informal and self-deprecatory tone, and I don't think saying please adds or removes much, given that. – choster Jul 13 '20 at 15:00
  • ...please bear with me... But there are plenty of hits in Google Books without the word "please". – FumbleFingers Jul 13 '20 at 15:05
  • @choster I simply don't know how to interpret the sentence. I feel difficulty often with the attitude of the conversation. Anyway, from your comment, I feel there is no clear cut answer. – hbadger19042 Jul 13 '20 at 15:17
  • Not at all rude. Just stating a situation. – Lambie Jul 13 '20 at 15:49

But why do I have to?

You actually don’t, you could choose to not read their question.

Similarly, if a shopkeeper said that to you, you could always take your business elsewhere.

The way “bear with me” is usually interpreted is as a plea. I guess this is such a common interpretation that the word “please” is not seen as necessary, though it would be used in many cases; it’s certainly technically more polite to say “please”, but not saying it would not be interpreted as impolite.

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