I just want to know what I've done since you suddenly don't want to talk to me anymore.

Is "...talk to me..." natural if my intention with the sentence is this: "...since you suddenly don't want to have a conversation with me anymore." and not "...since you suddenly don't want to say a word to me anymore." Or should I use "with" instead?

  • Both are correct. Given the human psychology, they will not misinterpret the meaning of the sentence, whether you use "to" or "with". Sep 21, 2020 at 20:57
  • In my experience, talk with is more common in N America; talk to is more common in the UK. Google Books Ngram Viewer indicates that talk to has historically been far more popular. books.google.com/ngrams/… Sep 21, 2020 at 22:22

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Broadly, both are interchangeable. However, if you still want to dig it deeper, I'd give my choice/preference.

talk to someone

is more kind of monologue where you speak more and whom you are talking to listens more.

On the other hand,

talk with someone

is a kind of dialogue between two where both almost equally participate.

To elaborate, let me think of an example -

I'm a team leader and if A from my team comes and 'complains' about B, I may say,

Okay, I'll talk to B.

What I mean is I'll raise the issue and probably instruct B not to do such things in future. Mostly, I'll speak and B will listen.

However, if my boss calls me and asks to implement some new strategies across the teams, I'd probably say,

Okay, I'll speak with my team members.

It'll have a fruitful discussion probably each one of my team will participate and give their inputs.

But, as I said earlier, largely, both are interchangeable with no big difference in most of the cases.

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