What is the proper use of "do" versus "are" in the phrases:

Do you like me?
Are you like me?

Is there any difference between them?

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The misunderstanding is not about "do" versus "are".
Instead, it is caused by the word "like". It can be either verb or adjective, but also may serve an adverb:

  • I like chocolate - here, like is a verb. It answers the question "what to do?" and its meaning is "to enjoy", "to sympathize" or "to prefer".
  • I am a programmer, like my brother - here like is adjective. It answers the question, "how?" and its meaning is "similar to" or "close to".
  • There are lots of birds like ducks and gulls - here like is an adverb. Its meaning is "to give an example".

Not very grammatical but a nice example sentence is:

Like my brother, I like fruits, like apples or bananas.

Here, "like" serves three different roles, and the meaning is:

Similarly to my brother, I enjoy fruits, for example, apples or bananas.

Now, back to the question.

"Do you like me?" means an asker wants to know if you enjoy the friendship of him/her.
"Are you like me?" means an asker wants to know if you are similar to him/her by character or whatever.


"Like" has two meanings.

When used with "do," it is a weaker form of "love. "Do you like (weaker than love) me?"

When used with "are," it means "similar to." Are you like me? Are you similar to me?

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