When I want to make some suggestions to others, does it sound rude to say "you'd better..."? I feel like it contains the implications that I am bossing people around.
If so, what are some better options to use other than that?
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The phrase “you had better X” is often used to state a threat, so I would avoid it. There are some situations where it wouldn’t be perceived that way, but I think it would be difficult to know which context is OK unless you’re very fluent. An example is,
It’s going to rain cats and dogs tonight according to the weather forecast. You’d better wear a hat!
Depending on the context, there are many different ways to express your opinion of what you think someone should do.
Without more context, the simplest way would be to replace “had better” with “should”. You could preface it with “I think” to soften it even more.
I think you should wear a hat.
A general way to make any suggestion more polite is to not direct it at a specific person, so it sounds less like an order. Adding a word like “probably” can soften it even more.
We should probably wear hats today.