I happened to read a book and I saw the sentence :

I was sitting between my mother and father

But then I thought among would also fit the sentence: I was sitting among my mother and father

I am actually unsure as both fit the sentence well and I also want to know their meaning and usage in sentences.


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If you were sitting between them, you'd have the mother on one side and father on the other. It would be,

Father, you, mother


Mother, you, father.

If you were sitting among them, then you could be sitting in any which way. You could be sitting in the pattern detailed above, or,

You, mother/father, father/mother


Mother/father, father/mother, you

Hope this clears things up!

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    This answer doesn't make any sense, despite having been accepted. @PrimeMover's answer is the correct one. Feb 6, 2021 at 9:55
  • I wish to add that if the general seating plan is such that OP is not directly "between" mother and father, then the simple construct "sitting with my mother and father". The "among" word would simply not arise in this context. Feb 6, 2021 at 11:45

When I was at school, we were taught:

  • "between" when there are 2 things to be mixed in with

  • "among" when there are more than 2 things to be mixed in with.

This was specifically for when, say, you are dividing a bag of goodies: between 2 people, among 3 or more people.

However, that rule seems to work adequately here as well.

You would only use "between" if you are physically in between them, or nearly so: if you draw a straight line from your mother to your father, it would pass through (or close to) you on the way.

If you are not sitting "between" them as such, but are merely sitting so that the three of you form a close group, you would say "sitting with my mother and father".

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