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So I’ve came across an argument with some girl I was chatting with, about a grammatical matter. In the sentence: “The kindest thing you ever did (was to leave) , (or) was leaving. What is the grammatical true way to write this ?

  1. The kindest thing you ever did was to leave.
  2. The kindest thing you ever did was leaving.
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    Both are possible, but it should be, The kindest thing you ever did was leave. Without TO. However, "The kindest thing you ever did was leaving." is rather rare. I wonder if anyone would actually use it.
    – fev
    Jul 16 '21 at 9:42
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Both are grammatical. There may be a slight preference for the gerund in this case because the reference is to an actual past event rather a future event, but I must admit my ear would not be offended at all by “to leave” or “leave” in this example. I do not agree with the comment suggesting that only the bare infinitive is strictly proper.

In general, both to-infinitives and present participles can be used as nouns.

I like to swim

I like swimming

In some cases, using the bare infinitive as a noun is grossly incorrect.

I like swim

is utterly unidiomatic.

One important exception to the general rule that both infinitives and gerunds can be used as nouns is that gerunds can be used as the object of a preposition whereas infinitives cannot.

He is very good at skiing

is fine.

He is very good at to ski

and

He is very good at ski

are not acceptable.

In many cases, gerunds are used for completed actions, and infinitives are used for intended or contemplated actions, but this is not an invariable rule.

His leaving was wise.

It was wise of him to leave.

They are equally acceptable.

In short, except as objects of a preposition, both to-infinitives and gerunds are grammatical, but consider preferring a gerund for a completed act and an infinitive for an intended act.

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