Someone sent a message to me unexpectedly and I replied with a question mark, then he told me that he just made a mistake by selecting the wrong recipient. I read the message and found that it is very helpful(also to me).

I thought I should say thank you, but it seemed awkward because I had not asked him for the favor, then I finished the conversation with a "Thanks all the same".

I know "thanks all the same" implies that I had asked for help(but the response was unhelpful), but the reality is that I had not(but helpful). I wonder how to thank him in this scenario?

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I wouldn't say thanks all the same, for the reason you stated yourself: it implies that you had asked for help.

Instead I would shortly explain what I am grateful for:

grateful for this serendipity/happy accident!

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    I'm not convinced that 'thanks all the same' would not be an appropriate response to unrequested help. You can use 'all the same' to mean 'in spite of' or 'nevertheless'. I did not ask for this help, which was intended for someone else. I found it useful nevertheless. Commented Jul 18, 2021 at 12:11
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    Overseas scam call centre: Hi Mr Harvey, we'd like to help you with a claim for your recent car accident. Me: I don't have a car, but thanks all the same! Overseas scam call centre: <click> Commented Jul 18, 2021 at 12:11
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    Agreed. I wouldn't use "thanks all the same" because of the sarcastic tone or the blase` attitude that almost always accompanies it. Commented Jul 18, 2021 at 14:07
  • blase` or blasé? Commented Jul 18, 2021 at 14:21
  • @FeliniusRex - I don't agree that 'all the same' necessarily implies sarcastic intent. Commented Jul 18, 2021 at 16:37

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