Healthy (environment / atmosphere / get-together / company etc.)

Question

I wonder what do you call a place / a get-together / a company / an environment, an atmosphere which is safe morally and sexually. In such a place etc. people do not use drugs, do not look for someone just to hook up with, and look at each other in a chaste way. I am wondering if the word "healthy" works in this sense.

Example:

Cindy: Did you go to the party last night?
Barbara: No! They have such get-togethers every other weeks, but I've never go to such places!
Cindy: How come? Is it something wrong with them? Is there someone you don't like?
Barbara: I don't like the relationships between them! The way they treat each other looks disgusting! They don't care about who you are, where you are from! Everyone has got an eye on you and just wants to take advantage of you! I regret going to one of their parties last year and I'm afraid of taking part in such occasions. Everyone was doped up and high! That was very scary.
Their companies / get-togethers / atmosphere / environment is just not healthy at all!

First of all, I am looking for an adjective which can describe such conditions! Secondly, I have my doubts regarding e.g. "healthy" environment! Because, when I search it, I run into many pages that have discussed the phrase as a situation in which people enjoy clean air, stable climate, adequate water, sanitation and hygiene, safe use of chemicals, protection from radiation, healthy and safe workplaces, sound agricultural practices, health-supportive cities and a preserved nature are all prerequisites for good health altogether which has nothing to do with what I need here.

I am wide open to any better, more correct or more common fixed phrase, idiom or expression.

Answer 1

wholesome

As FumbleFingers said in a comment above:

Healthy sounds to me like a rather tub-thumpingly "loaded" term for the intended sense here. For no reason I can put my finger on, near-synonymous wholesome company / venues / pursuits / friends seems a much better choice. Perhaps it's just that wholesome is more often used "semi-metaphorically" to mean "not depraved or corrupting", whereas healthy more often has the literal sense of "promoting good physical health".

Merriam-Webster has this definition (my emphasis):

3a : sound in body, mind, or morals

Also, "wholesome" can idiomatically describe a place, company, an environment or an atmosphere in the sense of it being morally sound, or having a mentally healthy, supportive and friendly environment. For events like parties, get-togethers and meet-ups, "wholesome" only applies in the metaphorical sense of being "morally sound", as in, no sex and no intoxicants.

That said, someone like Barbara who believes a party like that is bad for them could naturally describe it as "unhealthy", as that's their opinion, or their assessment of how the party would affect them personally. Many people believe that sexual freedom and judicious use of drugs is a healthier lifestyle than abstinence and sobriety.

Answer 2

The discussion in comments pointed me to the word decent:

conforming to standards of propriety, good taste, or morality

While still a rather positively-loaded word, it doesn't have the same implications of approval as wholesome or healthy - with those words, there's a heavy implication that the lack of alcohol and flirting is the right way to do things, while decent just describes the party or atmosphere as being in "good taste" without passing as much of a judgement.

(Note that decent also means fairly good, eg. a decent drummer - so make sure there's enough context to distinguish a decent (in good taste) party from a decent (satisfactory) party).

Another word I could use is proper:

correct according to social or moral rules

I'd consider proper a more objective term, although one with rather formal connotations - a proper atmosphere at a party would mean a more formal gathering in which people make specific effort to behave appropriately, while a decent atmosphere would just mean they're not indulging in any immoral acts. (What constitutes an immoral act is left as an exercise to the reader).