Is it correct to say:
I want to create a brighter future for my family and I.
Or is "I" supposed to be replaced by "myself"? Is there a better way to construct this sentence?
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for my family and I
is not grammatical. It seems to come from a mistaken fear that “me” is not grammatically proper when combined with “and.”
In fact, “me” is proper as the object of any verb or preposition.
He cursed me.
He cursed her.
Those are correct. For some illogical reason, people think that therefore
He cursed her and I
must be correct. In fact, it is not correct.
He cursed her and me.
You may replace “me” with myself, but it is usually reserved for emphasis.
I want to provide for myself and my family
suggests that your primary interest is personally self-centered and your interest in your family is secondary.
EDIT: The original poster asked a follow-up question as a comment. This edit responds to that comment rather than the original question.
English grammar has so many nuances that it is easy to oversimplify, and I hope that I have not done so below.
The basic form of the first person, singular pronoun used as the object of a verb or preposition in grammatical English is “me,” not “myself.”
Using the basic objective form of a pronoun as the object of a verb or preposition is always good grammar except for one situation. That one situation is when the pronoun identifies the same person, thing, persons, or things that constitute the subject of the relevant clause.
He taught me Latin
He taught myself Latin
I taught me Latin
I taught myself Latin
Now this basic use of reflexive pronouns is supplemented by a second use as an intensifier.
I myself am not going, but my wife and children are.
In this example, the reflexive pronoun is used to emphasize the distinction between what the speaker is doing and what the rest of the speaker’s family is doing. Here is another example of using a reflexive as an intensifier.
She did it for me, for myself alone.
Now there are rare cases where both the reflexive and objective forms of the pronoun are proper, but in such cases the meaning may be slightly different. Such cases involve multiple pronouns, one of which refers back to the subject.
I am trying to provide for me and my family
implies “me and my family” are a unit that is not the same as “I” and so does not suggest a priority for self over kin.
I am trying to provide for myself and my family
implies that “me” and “my family” are distinct entities, one of which is the same as “I”, and so may suggest a priority of self over kin.