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I have a context like this: We are a group of 3 friends for almost 9 years. (Me, A and B)

I say to A: We have been together for such a long time, didn't you realize that B always take advantage of you?

(1)... didn't you realize that B always take advantage of you?

(2)... haven't you realized that B always take advantage of you?

(3)... don't you realize that B always take advantage of you?

Which sentence is correct to use in this context? I think that (2) is the most appropriate to use. How about (1) and (3)?

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Don't you realize that B always takes advantage of you? (A still isn't aware of it at the present time.) I would find this the most natural.

Haven't you realized (before now) would also be idiomatic.

Didn't you realize would be asking whether A was aware of it at some moment in the past.

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  • If so, “did you realize “ is not correct to use in this context. Right?
    – LE123
    Commented Oct 27, 2023 at 8:33
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    It is certainly much less appropriate. Commented Oct 27, 2023 at 9:17
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    @LEHANH Did/Didn't you realize should always be used as a reference to past event. In the given example (1), the overall usage of tense sounds weird. It should be didn't you realize that B "used to" always take advantage of you? or same as Kate Bunting's answer in present tense
    – Rakib
    Commented Oct 27, 2023 at 10:06
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    I think it's misleading to say Didn't you realize... would be asking whether A was aware of it at some moment in the past. I think it's perfectly natural to say that while conveying the new information. That's to say, the time-frame referenced by Didn't you know he's married? could in principle just end at the word know - which the other person might only just be learning as those last two words are spoken. Commented Oct 27, 2023 at 14:07
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    I hesitated this morning to tell you that 'did you realise' was incorrect, as it had occurred to me that it can sometimes be used in the context of the present - but I didn't have time to think or post any more. Commented Oct 27, 2023 at 16:00

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