When I'm talking about my friend, who is a girl, but not a girlfriend, what word or phrase should I use? If the gender was unimportant, it would not be a problem. But if I want to note that the friend is female, not male, how should I say that, to avoid ambiguity?
There's nothing in the language that requires you to characterize with a noun. You can frame your discourse much less awkwardly with constructions like:
My friend Sidney? she'll be there, too ...
I have a friend, Sidney, her command of English is amazing ...
There's this girl, Sidney, friend of mine from school ...
You know my friend Sidney, Ed's little sister ...
My friend Sidney's pregnant ...
Talk about the person, not the role, and Great Mother English will take care of you.
Probably the easiest and simplest way is to just call her your friend and refer to her with a female pronoun. For example, "My friend Sidney is helping me move. She'll be here in an hour."
"Female friend" or "girl friend" is grammatically correct, but it calls a lot more attention to gender, which can be awkward. (If you talk about your male friends as "friends" and your female friends as "female friends," it implies that they're somehow a different kind of friend because they're female.)
It's not unusual in this situation to dispel ambiguity by further specifying the origin or current context of your friendship. This can be done with a simple compound of the context and the word friend (alternatively, 'partner' or possibly 'buddy' - although this is more commonly applied to men).
If you wish to make gender obvious, then it's best to use a pronoun to do this.
If we’re talking about a particular female friend, assuming she has already been introduced before, problem should not arise because we can/should use the pronouns, namely- she, her, etc. or just her name. Even if we’re referring to a friend, who is a girl/woman, for the very first time, we have various options for referring to her without the gender tag, like-
- Katie/She is a close friend of mine.
- My friend Liza can sing very well.
- Today I’m going to visit my friend Margie. And so on.
However, sometimes we may have to use the gender tag:
- Do you have any female friend(s)?
The term ‘friend’ is often used in a gross sense, so instead of ‘friend,’ we can also use ‘acquaintance’ or ‘colleague’.
- I attended the birthday party of a lady colleague.
The word friend, in the real sense of the term, has a sovereign dignity, and sounds great when used in that way.
A friend who is a girl may be either "a girl friend" or "a girlfriend".
Girlfriend - sex = girl friend.
Girl friend:- It means there is an empty space for someone more special.
Girlfriend:- It means there is no space for someone else to be more important.
The same explanation occurs with 'boy friend' and 'boyfriend'.