Not sure whether this is the right place to ask this question, but it has bothered me for so long, and has impacted my life from every aspect.

I am from China. This is my fourth-year in United States as a graduate student, but I still feel like I don't speak English well. The consequent results are:

(1) A lot of times I feel I have good ideas, thoughts, opinions in my mind. But once I speak out, I am not able to convey most of what I think efficiently. Because of that, I feel frustrated many times.

(2) I had very strong intention to stay out of the Chinese social group, hoping to get involved more with American students and native speakers. But a lot of times, though I am with them, I don't know how to start good conversations. As a result, I feel I don't make use of the time and the opportunities well. And I feel less confident to hang out with American classmates, as I would feel embarrassed without knowing what to chat.

I know living in another culture is not easy, and learning the culture and mastering the language are hard. I shouldn't expect that I can do great without time and efforts. But I really wish I can speak good oral English, have great communication ability with English, and embrace the American culture as I can.

In terms of my personal case, are there any practical suggestions (tips) on how I can train my oral English well and get involved in American culture? Are there any plans on daily activities that I can do to achieve that goal?

Any opinions are highly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

closed as off-topic by FumbleFingers, StoneyB, Chenmunka, user3169, ColleenV Nov 9 '14 at 22:07

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    This question appears to be off-topic because general advice on "How to learn English" is outside the remit of this site. – FumbleFingers Nov 9 '14 at 17:21
  • Thanks, @FumbleFinders. I did feel that way before I posted the question. But could you guide me which site on Stack Exchange that I can ask this question on? – Aaron Zeng Nov 9 '14 at 17:25
  • If there is such a site, I don't know of it. I'm not sure if you have enough rep yet to enter the ELL chat room, but that might be a suitable place to ask. If you can't get in yet, stick around and participate here for a while until you have more rep. Bear in mind that it's unlikely there's any "standard, universally recognised" correct answer, so your question probably wouldn't be accepted on any SE site. – FumbleFingers Nov 9 '14 at 17:39
  • @AaronZeng Our chat room is here: chat.stackexchange.com/rooms/7227/english-language-learners. – Damkerng T. Nov 9 '14 at 17:40
  • I must say, Aaron, I think it's more a matter of developing interpersonal skills than anything else. Make it your business to find out what someone else is interested in, and talk to / ask them about that. On average the person you're talking to will be interested in (aspects of) American culture, and if you're talking to them about something they're interested in, they'll be more willing to have the conversation. Later on, you can look for people who're interested in what you have to say, rather than people who just want to talk about their own concerns and interests. – FumbleFingers Nov 9 '14 at 17:55

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