What is a more common and natural compliment, "Your something is..." or "You have..."? For example "You have really nice hair" or "Your hair is really nice"? The issue is that I sent a message to girl "Your hair is really nice" and she corrected me having sent me "You have really nice hair". I am just confused.

  • I'd go with her on this! Simply because I don't like using is with hair!. You have really nice hair solves the purpose and soothes my eyes! :) – Maulik V Dec 8 '14 at 8:35
  • As a matter of language either should be OK, but in reality “You have really nice hair” is better because you are complimenting her for taking good care of her hair. – user3169 Dec 8 '14 at 18:04
  • You could have just replied: "Why thank you very much! I, also, believe my hair is one of my finer attributes. ;-)" This would show her you're clever and intentionally misunderstanding her intended correction as a compliment to yourself. Oh, then accuse her of being a brat! Girls. smh. – MrWonderful Mar 21 '16 at 23:49

Tell her whatever she wants to hear.

In practical purposes, you are complimenting either the entire person:

You have really nice hair.

Or you are complimenting an attribute:

Your hair is really nice.

There are contexts when one or the other will serve you better.

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