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Suppose you want to ask someone to do something, say to tell you the way to a station. Which is more polite, "Would you tell me the way to the station?" or "Could you tell me the way to the station?"?

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When you say:

Would you tell me the way to the station?

you are asking a favor of someone.

When you say:

Could you tell me the way to the station?

literally you are asking if the person knows the way to the station and can tell you. As a question it is implied that you are hoping for the answer, but permission or whether the person wishes to answer is not addressed.

As such, using would is more polite.

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    Wellll .... Yes, "could you" is technically asking if the person is able, rather than if they are willing. But unless the context indicates that you are referring to ability, people almost always understand it to mean the same as "would you". I think both are equally polite. – Jay Jan 22 '15 at 6:53
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    @Jay Maybe I'm old fashioned. It might be splitting hairs depending on the politeness sense of the individual. – user3169 Jan 22 '15 at 16:33
  • With the hairsplitting on would and could: Please don't forget the good old "please". ;-) – Stephie Feb 6 '15 at 5:51
  • And if I ask "Can you ...?" does it sound impolite? – mathreader Sep 12 '18 at 5:23
  • @mathreader Depends on the situation and respondent. Would/could give a reasonable ability to reply "no". can basically implies ability, so a "no " response might imply you don't want to (possibly impolite) rather than you physically can't. – user3169 Sep 12 '18 at 17:02

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