What is the difference between manners and etiquette? How do you decide where each one should be used? Please differentiate with an appropriate example.
A manner is a way of doing something. The way in which any individual behaves is described generally as his manner. You often see phrases such as "He has the manner of a gentleman". It describes a person's bearing as well as behaviour.
Etiquette is a set of rules defining the manner in which certain events or situations should be performed. Thus, etiquette defines good manners.
If an individual always performs certain acts in a certain way, then that is described as a mannerism - an individual characteristic.
In summary, Etiquette is the set of rules, Manners are the actions.
It is good manners to follow the proper etiquette for any situation.
Etiquette - This is a set of rules, which various parts of the world follow. These 'rules' are little things that tell you what is proper.
Example: You use different types of knifes and forks for different types of food. This shows proper etiquette. It is not a bad manner to use your salad knife to cut your fish, you would just not be following the etiquette.
Manners - Manners are what you do in a specific way to be polite, courteous, etc., Showing proper manners means making the person around you not to feel bad.
Example: You say “please” and “thank you”, this shows your good manners. You are not 'showing etiquette' while doing this.
IMO, a good etiquette training brings you remarkable aplomb to tackle any situation without any hassles. Say, you are at someone's funeral; now, here, you require good etiquette that'll teach you how to behave at this sorrowful event.
Etiquette is more generalized, whereas manners talks about specific rules of conduct.
Say, in which order you take food (table precedence?, I'm not sure) requires etiquette. But then, you should not stare at others eating requires manners.
The context of good manners is daily life (greeting, cleaning what you leave behind, being courteous and polite, no foul language), and etiquette takes place in more solemn events (weddings, theaters, banquets, fancy restaurants, diplomatic/religious/political events), being more common in upper class or special environments.