Does that just mean

"someone is smiling and shaking his/her head"


"someone is laughing out loud?"

  • The phrase in your title is not idiomatic English. Could you post the entire phrase and the context where you found it?
    – TimR
    May 24, 2015 at 13:11
  • I've interpreted your question as referring to the idiom 'smile and shake one's head' (see my answer). If that is not correct, and you mean something else, edit your question and comment on my answer.
    – user6951
    May 24, 2015 at 13:21
  • It's the context I found the sentence. 'Two people on one sofa lean towards another person on the opposite sofa. They smile and shake their heads and, eventually, the one on her own starts to cry.' May 24, 2015 at 15:10

3 Answers 3


It means to acknowledge some situation or something that someone has said, without making any further comment on the matter.

It is similar to bite one's tongue. You might want to say something, but the best thing to do in some situations is to just "bite your tongue" or "Smile and shake your head."

You might want to do this when someone says something (a) you don't agree with, (b) have heard them say 1000 times, or (c) when you have no idea what they are talking about. In all cases, you are disguising your true thoughts on the matter.

  • I think (a) and (b) are good examples and reflect my experience with the phrase, but the disguising your true thoughts conclusion seems inaccurate, especially in light of those examples. In (b), for example, smiling and shaking your head can indicate "let's not go down this road again, we both know how that's going to go"
    – Jonah
    Sep 22, 2015 at 3:05

This can be a nonverbal way of expressing a range of emotions or reactions, including amusement, disbelief, disapproval, or frustration.

For example, someone might smile and shake their head if they hear a joke that they find amusing but not entirely believable, or if they see someone doing something silly or unexpected. Alternatively, they might smile and shake their head if they are presented with a situation or idea that they find frustrating or difficult to accept.

In general, smiling and shaking your head can be a way of indicating that you are not taking something seriously or that you are not fully convinced by it. It is often used as a nonverbal way of expressing a lack of agreement or approval, while still maintaining a friendly or neutral demeanor.


It is possible to imagine a commonplace dramatic (or melodramatic) context for this description:

'Two people on one sofa lean towards another person on the opposite sofa. They smile and shake their heads and, eventually, the one on her own starts to cry.'\

On TV shows and in the movies, this is often how someone is informed, without words, that their loved one "didn't make it", that is, has not survived emergency surgery, for example.

  • This is not right. People don't smile when reporting a loved one has died. I could see "The doctor pressed his lips together, shook his head, and put his hand John's shoulder," but smile? To me, "Smile and shake your head" typically has a flavor of absurd comedy and resignation.
    – Jonah
    Sep 22, 2015 at 3:02
  • There are many kinds of smiles. A smile does not always express joy.
    – TimR
    Sep 22, 2015 at 12:05
  • Regardless a smile is not a good description for the expression a doctor makes when delivering bad news.
    – Jonah
    Sep 22, 2015 at 13:47
  • But it isn't just "smile" -- "they smile and shake their heads". Besides, it's not my description, just my attempt to provide a plausible context for a facial/head gesture that is being described in minimal terms. The OP did not provide much context when it was requested. You might want to follow up on that point with the OP.
    – TimR
    Sep 22, 2015 at 15:10

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