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Preface: This question applies only to writing, which lacks the benefits of nonverbal communication which would resolve this problem.

Example: Your lawyer remembers your remembrance that she cannot do something (eg: She can advise only on real estate law, and not trust law in which she is inexperienced.). However, her excessive caution causes her to keep reminding you redundantly. How do you most tactfully inform her that she need not remind you? My attempts below all sound impolite.

  1. Please do not repeat it.
    Problem: This sounds too authoritative, even with 'please'.

  2. Please, (there is) no need to repeat it.
    Problem: This sounds as though her reminders have dispirited and fatigued you.

  3. Please do not worry about repeating it.
    Problem: My own experiences attest and prove this ineffective; the other parties rebut me by insisting that they are not 'worried', and then repeat it anyways to my annoyance.

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    Is this the only piece of information you're trying to convey to the lawyer, or is there some other communication (not necessarily related to the issue of which you are asking)? – Victor Bazarov Aug 18 '15 at 19:37
  • So the lawyer is saying that s/he can't do something? Or is the lawyer saying that the client can't do something? – CRABOLO Aug 18 '15 at 20:46
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    @CRABOLO You are right that the lawyer's saying that s/he can't do something. For example, the client may ask the lawyer about trust law when the lawyer is inexperienced in it. – Greek - Area 51 Proposal Aug 18 '15 at 22:09
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    The fact that the lawyer (or whoever) keeps repeating the warning implies to me that you keep straying onto that topic. Particularly with legal issues, a lawyer will want to reiterate that an answer outside their practice area can not be relied upon legally. – mkennedy Aug 19 '15 at 21:19
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    Repetition, especially in writings, implies to me that there should be no lasting physical evidence. Some future misfeasance/malfeasance action might be decided on a single letter that did not contain the words. Probable self-preservation of a conscientious lawyer. – user2338816 Aug 19 '15 at 22:29
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How about

Keeping in mind that you are unable [whatever she says she cannot do], let us focus on the other important aspects of the case.

Essentially you now tell her whatever it is, and thus give her a hint that she doesn't need to do that.

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How about this:

"Yes, I remember that from the last time you told me."

You're not exactly telling the person to stop (which is where the rudeness comes in), but you're conveying the sentiment that the information doesn't need to be repeated anymore.

  • Not sure about those up-ticks... The answer given mostly explains how to respond verbally to something that was just repeated the umpteenth time. What about in writing? How to make it "a pre-emptive 'shoosh'" (like Dr.Evil said)? – Victor Bazarov Aug 18 '15 at 22:17
  • @Victor - The answer I've given here is the way I would write it, given the situation described by the O.P. In fact, I think this is a polite way to handle this in written form, but I think it would be borderline rude to say this aloud in the situation you describe. – J.R. Aug 19 '15 at 8:29
  • My concern is more with the "Yes", which rarely has its place in written communication, and thus suggests more of a verbal reply... No matter. – Victor Bazarov Aug 19 '15 at 12:39
  • @Victor - "Yes" is an affirmative word, and affirmative words can help offset the negative tone of a remark. I agree that it's an uncommon use, but I think it's a permissible one. – J.R. Aug 19 '15 at 12:45
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In the hope that this phrase may be useful for the OP and anyone who is in a similar situation, I'd like to suggest this phrase:

I'm sorry that you had to repeat that again.

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