Which questions is correct:

  1. "Where am I and my sister?"


  2. "Where are I and my sister?"

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    I'd use "Where are my sister and I?" Arguing about how many grammarians find either of the others grammatically acceptable ignores the virtual need for idiomaticity. – Edwin Ashworth Jan 17 '16 at 7:45
  • Possible duplicate of "My wife and I's seafood collaboration dinner" – FumbleFingers Jan 17 '16 at 13:28
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    @Edwin: My need for idiomaticity requires me to forget about I and ask Where are me and my sister? – FumbleFingers Jan 17 '16 at 13:30

Think about it:

My sister and I are going to the store.

My sister and I are now at the store.

My sister and I are where?

Where are my sister and I?

Don't semantically muddle the issue by relocating "I" before "sister" in order to lean on the seeming rightness of "I am." However you decide to say it, though, "my sister and I" or the more egomaniacal "I and my sister," it doesn't change the fact that it calls for the first-person plural conjugation of the verb "to be," also known as the "we" conjugation.

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    Or, better yet, just ask: "Where are we?" – Mari-Lou A Jan 17 '16 at 8:02
  • @Mari-Lou A : Yes, absolutely. That is what any natural speaker would say. – Benjamin Harman Jan 17 '16 at 8:06
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    @Peter : That doesn't change the fact. The same conjugation applies whether you say "we" or "my sister and I." They are both second-person plural. The answer remains "are." – Benjamin Harman Jan 17 '16 at 8:32
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    @Peter : Make no mistake, the subject of the sentence is "my sister and I," not "where." This is an example of inversion. We invert the subject and the verb when forming questions. If we were not to use inversion, it would be "Where my sister and I are?" But we do use inversion, so we say, "Where are my sister and I?" – Benjamin Harman Jan 17 '16 at 12:19
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    '... it doesn't change the fact that it calls for the first-person plural conjugation of the verb "to be,"...' needs supporting evidence. I'd say 'Where are I and my sister?' is at best close to unacceptable, which trumps the 'this needs plural agreement' argument. // There are examples showing that 'the obvious answer' is not always correct, such as 'It's us' and 'More than one person was unhappy'. 'Think about it' is not safe here. – Edwin Ashworth Jan 18 '16 at 0:12

my sister and I are where?

I and my sister are where?

would be natural and gramatic ways of asking the question, which brings you to rearranging into another semantically correct form of the question:

where are my sister and I?


I would avoid the issue with:

Where are we, my sister and I?

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