Why is it grammatically wrong to say:

She told me if I wanted to come.

She said if I wanted to come.

I have been told that in this context we must use ask rather than tell or say.

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  • Do a research in terms of checking the dictionary entries for those verbs and “if”. It should become apparent once you learn the meaning of each. – userr2684291 Mar 26 '16 at 14:08
  • @user2684291 this is not basic question.I know those verbs and if. – Mrt Mar 26 '16 at 14:10
  • As it's stated, it's trivial. Maybe if you described the intended meaning we could determine what the problem is. – userr2684291 Mar 26 '16 at 14:12
  • I don't see any problem with the phrases themselves, but really some more context is needed. In the second one, "She said" could be reported speech to someone else, whereas the first is clearly directed at me. – user3169 Mar 26 '16 at 17:01
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    You should reference where "it is said", and add that point to your question. – user3169 Mar 26 '16 at 17:37

I'd go with

She asked (me) if I wanted to come.

since it's reporting a yes/no question which seems to be an invitation. If that's the case, then I could go with this too

She invited me to go with her.

We usually use tell when we report a statement (rather than a question) indirectly and we use say when we want to report something directly. In other words, use 'say' for exact quotes as in

She said, "let's dance."

and in indirect reports with 'that' as in

She said (that) she loved him.

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