First of all, the first sentence needs rewriting because your verb (has elapsed) does not correspond to the subject (ten years). Also, "an actor X.Y." feels strange: an actor indicates you don't know which one it was, but then you know their name and when they died. So let's write that sentence as:
Since the death of actor X, ten years have elapsed. He is remembered fondly.
"I want to use the relative clause." OK, but you cannot stuff those ten years in a relative clause about actor X like you tried to! You can convey the same meaning as your original sentence as follows:
Actor X, since whose death have elapsed ten years, is remembered fondly.
However, a shorter, more to-the-point version that I feel flows a bit more naturally, would be:
Actor X, who died ten years ago, is remembered fondly.
"of whom death has elapsed ten years" => here, you try to make death the subject of elapse, but it is not. It is the years that have elapsed, not the death! I guess this is the reason as well why you wrote has instead of have in your original sentence.