I have been married for 10 years and someone tells me that I married the wrong man. Because I resent that remark I want to answer saying something like this:
- I didn't know that I have been married to the wrong man for 10 years.
- I didn't know that I had been married to the wrong man for 10 years.
Can I use the present perfect tense or do I have to use the past perfect? Which tense is appropriate? I can't use the past simple because I am still married.