Hard fate when women are compell’d to woo!
(The Silkworm, by Robert Galbraith)
What is the sex of the person who woos in the example? By OALD, the doer of wooing is a male. Then, ‘Hard fate when women are compelled for men to woo them women’ is what the sentence mean? Or ‘Hard fate when women are compelled for them to woo men'?
Hard fate when women are compell'd to be wooed
. So, your second guess is correct (however, it 'for them' is incorrect;Hard fate when women are compelled to woo men
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