I was talking to a girl in English and in personal, friendly and non-formal situation.
The girl behaved like she...was obligated to speak with me like she did. It was just a feeling that she had some moral condition, that she forced herself to behave in a certain manner or that she had to talk to me in such manner becuase of whatever reason....like she had a specific goal with me and didn't care about talking with me at all.
With my non-native knowledge of english language, a sentence came to my mind very intuitively...I told her "You seem forced" and the exact moment I said that, it felt awkward...like, it's something a native english speaker would definitely NOT say. It sounded like I was implying she was being pushed by a physical force, like by a unexpectedly moving door or something.
But what I meant was more abstract... I tried to say (just to myself) several different sentences just to find what sounds best and haven't found any...
"You seem forced" - sounds awkward but she seemed like she was "forced" either by someone, by herself, by the situation, by the atmosphere, by anything. Not by physical force at all.
"You sound like you have to speak with me" - sounds too long ...and I feel there's strong implication of "You sound like someone told you you have to speak with me."
"You don't look yourself" - I feel this conveys slightly different message...like "you don't look well" or "are you alright?"
I want to be clear in saying that she looks like she is being forced by the current situation or by herself for any reason, like she has a specific goal and doesn't care about talking with me at all.
How would you say that?
Is "you seem forced" OK or is that really weird?
What would you say in the situation, where a stranger approaches you but you feel there is a very blatant expression of "I don't care about you at all, I approached you and we're having this useless small-talk just because I want to get you to do something for me"...? How would you in most concise - but friendly and non-conflicting - way tell her that this behaviour is very obvious to you?